The Hall of Shame ~ Part XXIII

So, I ended a relationship on September 2nd that I thought was going to be ‘the one’. Boy did I make the mistake of a lifetime! Since ending the relationship, my Dejected Loser has texted me over 200 times, called my cell phone over 150 times, called my home and office an unknown number of times, and has even begun creating new email accounts to contact me because I blocked his primary accounts.

Ending a relationship isn’t something that I take lightly . . . and I did it in a kind, but straightforward manner. I have not been in contact with him since the break-up . . . because doing so would just continue the pain when there is no hope of us being together. Anyway, below you will find what I hope will be the final communication between me and my Dejected Loser. If he cannot get the message now, I am not quite sure what path I will be forced to take . . . but can I pick them or what?!?

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From: Dejected Loser
To: Jenny
Subject: How far will I sink?
Date: Monday, October 5, 2009
Message:
My love,
I cannot believe the depths to which you have driven me, to which I will go to get into contact with you. It angers me to think that just this time last month, we were blissfully in love and where are we now? You threaten me with abuse orders through my daughter. You damage me in ways I never thought and yet I still reach out to you. You say I try to control you, yet refuse to consider those actions as demonstration of my love of you. I need you in my life and am willing to do whatever it is that you say I need to do to make that happen. Please pick up the phone and answer my calls babe. I can’t believe you are doing this to us because of a mistake - one word said to you in anger.
Yours eternally,
Dejected Loser

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From: Jenny
To: Dejected Loser
Subject: Re: How far will I sink?
Date: Monday, October 5, 2009
Message:
I am not sure how much more clearly I can say this. Your pathetic attempts to get back with me are just that – pathetic. It has now been over a month and your inability to accept that our relationship is over is unbelievable to me. So, let me break this down for you in a way that I hope you are going to be able to understand.

1) I do not want to ever see you again. The very thought of coming into contact with you in person makes me physically ill. I mortally regret every second of the seven months that I spent with you. You are an unwelcome presence in my life and if you do show up at my home, you can rest assured that I will call the police and have you physically removed.

2) Your controlling behavior of me was a demonstration of love? Really? Well, let me try to enlighten you about that. That same ‘affection’ forced your loving wife, of over twenty years, ultimately to cheat on you. So, I would strongly recommend that you reevaluate how you show your affection because it is scaring off the women in your life. If you love someone, you do not need to smother them. Trust is a wonderful thing . . . if you do not have it in a relationship, you have NOTHING!

3) I damage you? I have not yet begun to fight dirty . . . but you should know me well enough to know that I will. So let me reiterate to you that I need you to leave me alone. The texts, phone calls to my home, cell phone, and office need to stop. You know I blocked your primary email accounts, so the email messages from newly created accounts also need to stop. Your pleas are falling on deaf ears. I am responding to you this FINAL time; this will be the last communication from me. You need to move on with your life. I bear you no ill will . . . I just cannot be with you. You have to accept that because there is no other option for you.

4) There is nothing that you can say or do that is going to place you back in my life. We are not friends and we are not in a romantic relationship any longer. There is no room for you in my world.

5) One word said to me in anger. Yes, it was one word. But the word was WHORE. You called me a whore. And the part that I cannot get past, for the life of me, is that you absolutely meant it when you said it. So, you can apologize until the end of time, but that does not change the very simple fact that you believe me capable of not only being unfaithful to you, but you think that I have questionable morals. There is nothing else to be said based on that statement alone. I will not get past that and do not want to. Call me immature, unforgiving, and whatever else you need to in order to get over this . . . but just do it because it no longer matters to me what you think. You can even think I am the biggest whore in Southeastern Pennsylvania and it will not make a difference. At the end of the day, I know the truth and I can sleep at night. Somehow I do not think that you can or you would not be harassing me.

Please stop now . . . I implore you to use the brain that God gave you to do so. I wish only the best for you and your family. Be happy and healthy . . . and find someone to spend the rest of your life with. That someone is not me.

Best Wishes,
Jenny