The Hall of Shame ~ Part XXVI

I am going to put a strong disclaimer at the beginning of this blog entry and warn EVERYONE that it contains some material that some may find offensive (primarily people on social assistance or unmarried mothers). While I am not going to apologize for any of my words (as I sincerely meant them), what I will say is that I am not directing judgment in any way towards anyone other than the person to which I was communicating in this email. I thought long and hard before deciding that I would share this exchange and decided that it is my right to do so. If any of my ‘friends’ takes a personal exception to it, then they have the ability to exercise use of the ‘Remove From Friends’ button and move on with their lives. I’m not going to get into a social debate over any of my words.

So, here is the deal. I am single and have been actively dating – making no secret of that fact. I have been dating a number of different people and apparently have been seen being squired around town by various gentlemen. A woman, that I would have previously considered to be a friend (from a past religious life), emailed me with concern about my behavior. And here is the hot freaking mess that ensued.

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From: Interfering Religious Nightmare
To: Jenny
Subject: Your Activities
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 2010

Jenny,
It’s been a while girl! I miss you! But you have been the topic of several discussions around the Hall lately and I had to let you know that I don’t think that you are making wise choices for yourself these days. Even though you decided to leave, you need to think about what you are doing and how it impacts your life. It isn’t good for you to be seen with a different guy every night of the week. What are people going to think of you? Don’t you have any respect for yourself? Have you changed so much? Just take a few steps back and think about what you are doing, reflect in prayer, and I think that you may make some smarter choices in the future. I don’t want to see you end up in a mess.
Agape,
Interfering Religious Nightmare

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From: Jenny
To: Interfering Religious Nightmare
Subject: Re: Your Activities
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 2010

Dear Interfering Religious Nightmare,

Wow! What an interesting email to receive . . . I have to say that I am surprised that you would contact me with a message like that! It has been an exceedingly long time since we have been in touch. I did try to retain our friendship, but you never seemed to have the time to get together. Although, apparently since you and your cohorts don’t have anything better to do than gossip about me, I can see why you wouldn’t have time to maintain a friendship with a decent person. I would actually thank you to not discuss me with those people . . . none of you know anything about me or my life, so I would recommend that you mind your own business.

Jenny

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From: Interfering Religious Nightmare
To: Jenny
Subject: Re: Your Activities
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 2010

Jenny,
You have taken our concern for your life the wrong way. We are all concerned for you, which is why it was brought up. People see you out at all hours of the day and night, each time with a different man, and what do you expect them to think Jenny? That is not appropriate behavior of a God-fearing woman and you know better than to act in such a manner. I am surprised that you would be doing that when you know the dangers of the flesh. I continue to hope and pray that you will return. You are in my constant thoughts.
Agape,
Interfering Religious Nightmare

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From: Jenny
To: Interfering Religious Nightmare
Subject: Re: Your Activities
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 2010

Mmmm . . . so just because I am seen out – IN THE GENERAL PUBLIC – with men, it makes people worry about me? That is the most absurd thing possible. No one knows what the situation is with the person that I might be out with and it isn’t any of their business. But, naturally, since I know how warped everyone in your religion is, you all automatically assume the worst. Heaven forbid that I should actually be able to control my sexual impulses! However, the last time that I checked, my behavior wasn’t any concern of yours. I neither want nor need your prayers. Save them for someone that is interested sister. And save your concern for someone that needs it . . . I am perfectly fine.

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From: Interfering Religious Nightmare
To: Jenny
Subject: Re: Your Activities
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 2010

For someone that is innocent, you are taking offense to my concern for you. All I know is that, from the outside, it makes you look like a women with loose morals. And I only thought it was fair to let you know how it appeared to other people. That is all.

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From: Jenny
To: Interfering Religious Nightmare
Subject: Re: Your Activities
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 2010

OHHHHH . . . I totally get it. So, because I date, I am a whore? Because I date different men, I am automatically screwing each one of them?!? You know what? The last time I checked, I wasn’t the one that had two children by two different men . . . neither of which I was married to. So, if you are going to cast dispersions on someone, you may want to look in the mirror sweetie. Because if you are looking for a woman of ill repute, it sure as FUCK isn’t me.

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From: Interfering Religious Nightmare
To: Jenny
Subject: Re: Your Activities
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 2010

Your words were like a knife through my heart. I will admit that I have made mistakes, but have asked and received forgiveness for those. It isn’t fair for you to throw my past up at me when I have worked hard to move past it. And I am trying to help save you. Your eternal life is at risk here.

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From: Jenny
To: Interfering Religious Nightmare
Subject: Re: Your Activities
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 2010

Oh yes . . . your convenient indiscretions. How old is the baby? Ten months now? And you never even got disfellowshipped for the last one . . . I know how it works. Believe me . . . I have been around enough to know. And I told you before that I don’t need you to save me – that isn’t something that is in your power, nor should it be something that you should want to do. Look within girl . . . I think you have more than enough personal issues to handle, without trying to ‘help’ me. I’ve got a rocking life over here . . . I am a productive member of society, with gainful employment, wonderfully loving and supportive friends, and a VERY active social life (as you and your stalking friends know). I couldn’t ask for me. Oh wait . . . I can and am asking you to now leave me alone. I’m not interested in any further nonsense from you. Just let it go . . .

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From: Interfering Religious Nightmare
To: Jenny
Subject: Re: Your Activities
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 2010

You think I didn’t get your dig about employment? I know you were mocking me about being on assistance. That was just mean and unnecessary. I am trying and am doing the best that I can do. That is all that any of us can do. I am dedicating my life to God and raising my children the best way that I can. I only hope that you can turn your life around before it is too late. Satan has snared you and I am so sorry for you.

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From: Jenny
To: Interfering Religious Nightmare
Subject: Re: Your Activities
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 2010

Actually I was not mocking you for being on welfare and living in a project . . . but since you brought it up, I think maybe you should expend some of the precious energy that you use in service to God in actually looking for a job so that I don’t have to work so hard to support you and your children. If I am so snared by the Devil, you shouldn’t want my money paying your way!

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From: Interfering Religious Nightmare
To: Jenny
Subject: Re: Your Activities
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 2010

Did you want to make me cry? Because that is what you have done. I will continue to pray for your return, but you know things between us will never be the same. I am sorry for you and hope that you do not end up crawling back to me and asking for forgiveness. But I think you will.

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From: Jenny
To: Interfering Religious Nightmare
Subject: Re: Your Activities
Date: Wed, 6 Jan 2010

You just couldn’t let it go, could you? Honey . . . the day I come crawling back to you for anything, will be the day AFTER they put me into the ground. And the only thing that will come to you will be my spirit – to haunt you for being such an evil witch. Now, dry those tears . . . I don’t want you crying. That’s just weak and pathetic . . . if you were truly doing the ‘best that you can’ then my words wouldn’t have meant a damn thing to you. Now, I am off on a HOT date. Hopefully I run into one of your cohorts. I’ll make sure to wave.